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Monday, December 26, 2011

Mari really practicing her manners...

Christmas Eve we met with my husband's Dad and Aunt  for a brunch at Bob Evans.  Mari was dressed in her Christmas dress and cute as ever, and even cuter as she was using her "Please and Thank You's" along with  lately her favorite "Excuse me."

I say favorite because she thinks because she says it, she can interrupt and be heard at any moment because she "used her manners", and now we need to work on "wait your turn".

So at the restaurant (which I am SO thankful was not very crowded)  we were seated right away and our orders were taken immediately (as I have learned that if we are going out, we need to plan ahead what we are ordering to keep the momentum of  the moment going so that we can avoid any melt downs if at all possible and even more, "have manners" and not ruin someone else's dining experience.

Well, then the momentum slowed as the food didn't come as promptly as we were seated and orders taken.

The kids did very well coloring and eating the free bread (again, have to know where your going and what they offer to keep every moment occupied).  The waitress even came to refill our glasses twice.  On the third visit to check on us and without our order, Mari stops all of the adult conversation and says, "Excuse me," but directs it to the waitress and says, " Why are  my pancakes taking so long?"

We all were speechless and busted out laughing, including the wide eyed waitress who maintained her sweetness and replied, " I don't know but I will check for you."

In response to all our laughing, Mari shrugged her shoulders and said, "What? I said excuse me."

The food came shortly all thanks to our Mari and we had a nice brunch with family.  I guess interrupting with "Excuse me" sometimes is "Mannerful"?  (I need to make that a Mari word) And only some how  with Mari would any of this be seen as cute. ...Merry Christmas everyone!!

Mari w/ her Great-Aunt Marilyn


Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Mari's Animals are "thinking"....

Onc night Mari woudln't let Dylan sleep in her bed because her, "Animals were thinking about it." 

Mari's summer

So these are just some pictures of bits and pieces of Ms. Mari's summer...we did the beach (where Mari as usual had NO fear, and swam in high waves of Lake Erie and didn't care if she started to drift out to sea/lake:/ ) .... We hit the zoo with friends where Mari became "Monkey Mari" and climbed trees at the picnic area (higher than the boys, EVEN in her dress;/)....One of my FAVORITE Mari moments this summer was when we attempted to camp at our city camp-out where the fair was and where we were only going to "walk" around and have a look at all the rides and Mari not ONCE, but  FIVE times, got free rides by being "cute" and doing a "boo boo" face  to the carnie's and they let her ride the rides for free and not just get ONE time around but many!....We swam at the pool, and  I am hoping Mar just has this gift for swimming (check out the first post of summer) and maybe someday it will pay for college or maybe as she seems to like to pose in her suit, can run for Miss America??...
The end of the summer finished as Mari was invited to go with her best friend Morgan to a Safari Park and she got to see and touch real African animals (and ride a camel).  I love the ring of the title  "Mari's Safari"....
Last, before school started, we did a day trip to the history museum and some how managed to leave without Mari climbing on one of the dinosaur exhibits and breaking any bones...Hers or the dinosaurs...

Monday, July 4, 2011

Mari goes to the movies

Our last two  weeks have been filled with two kids birthdays and our second family camping trip slash, 4th of July weekend slash Carnvial.  Both have ended rough;/ not horrible but just not in "romantic fashion" as my husband calls it....Mari did get some free rides from the carnie's  as she "boo boo" faced her way on the rides!   As I am trying to keep up with this blog, I will first share the movie trip....

We took the kids to see Cars 2 on the weekend it came out.  We maybe see one movie a year and with it opening the weekend of two of our kids birthdays (they have back to back birthdays) we decided it was worth the trip out. We even had coupons for free popcorn for the kids (maybe that was where it was too good to be true.)  We didn't see  the 3D one, we are too cheap! ( I only added it to my story to make it a story!)  Maybe we should have splurged and that scenario would have ended better.  This was the second family "movie" outing we have ever done.  The first one did end in that "romantic notion". So we were way over confident in thinking that this movie experience would go in the same way.

Mari couldn't sit in her seat, neither could Hank, but for the record and for Dylan's sake, she was AWESOME ( 1 out 3 is good right?)  The two little ones went from sitting on my lap to Dan's, to wanting to "try out" every seat in the isle; also any time there was music in the movie, they made it into a dance party and starting jumping and dancing to  it (at least they have rhythm).   We ran out of popcorn not even half way through the movies and the two kids freaked.  I still want to  blame  the movie for not drawing the kids into the million dollar animation, but that would be too easy to do (but I still am going to say it wasn't worth the money to see in the theater and it is  more of a rental movie, but I am still probably a little bitter about the whole experience and cost. The kids also talked  VERY VERY  loudly and don't get what SHHHHHH means;/ So maybe too since I didn't get to really watch it, I don't  know how good of a movie it was?)   We had a total of 4 bathroom trips and at one point dragged Hank out because he was screaming at me because Mari was on my lap and not him.  When I finally brought him back into the theater, the seat I found to sit in was broken and just out of frustration  I sat in it for the rest  of the movie......The broken seat pretty much summed up the whole movie  trip....We will try it again next year! When this whole experience is a blur.....

Mari goes to the movies

Today my family and I went to the movies!

We even got a  drink and popcorn!

The movie is in 3D so we get to wear special glasses that makes the characters POP out of the screen!

My mom even let me bring MIMI (my special blanket) so I can stay warm during the movie.  Mom says sometimes the theater gets cold.  (A theater is the big room where you sit and watch the movie.)

My mom told me we have to follow certain rules if we are going to sit in the theater.

Here are some Movie Rules:

First rule:  YOU HAVE TO SIT IN YOUR SEAT! this means no getting up AT all during the movie. NO JUMPING, dancing, or STANDING while the movie is playing!

Rule number 2:  NO TALKING AT ALL while the movie is playing. ( My mom says if I have to say anything I can whisper very quietly to her in her ear). Talking during the movie is rude because other people are in the theater too and talking would make them miss the movie.

Rule number 3:  We all have to share the popcorn. (some day when I am BIG I might change this rule)

Rule number 4: (This should be rule number 1)  USE THE BATHROOM BEFORE THE MOVIE STARTS!  my mom says we should do this so that we don't have to go while the movie is playing so we don't miss any of the movie because we can't stop it like we can at home.

So now I am ready to see the movie! I used the bathroom. I found my seat. The lights go out. The theater is dark. The movie starts!  SHHH!  NO TALKING!!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Mad Mari Minds Her Manners...

Friday my friends' came over and I watched their daughter for a few hours.  As they dropped her off the kids went nuts from the attention and excitement of having people over.  We have people over all the time, so you would think they would be used to guests?  The ten minute drop off then  became one of those moments that felt like hours and where I honestly felt  I had  no control of my kids.  Mari was jumping on the couch, Hank was starting to throw a huge bouncy ball at my friend, and they just wouldn't stop.   Hank  then starts crying because he, "wants to go to their house", and not have them over ours.  I was so embarrassed and pretty much felt like they were wondering if it was even safe for them to leave their child with me. As soon as they left, the kids go back into "functioning mode" and all of them play great for the next couple of hours. 

 So as pick up time arrives, I am thinking that by time they get back, the kids would be tired out and the earlier excitement has faded?  Sadly, I was wrong.   By this time, Dylan was down stairs playing and when our friends walked into the house and asked Dylan how she was, Dylan starts  to get "shy".  You know where your kid starts to cling to your leg and then they  get all whiny and won't even look at the other person, and you the parent are internally pleading for them to snap out of it and start talking?  Mari  at the same time is smothering my friends baby, and Hank is crying about something, again.   I am now for the second time with them, embarrassed and frustrated about feeling so out of control and trying to reassure them that they all played great and none of this chaos happened the entire time. 

So the moment they leave I gather the kids, give a "lecture" ( and yes, by lecture I mean  FULL blown yell, to my friends who think I don't yell, I yelled!)  about how they need to treat people better and have some "manners."  I come up with this brilliant idea of "acting out" how we need to use our manners.  

We start role playing and the kids love it.  I pretend to be my friend and  repeatedly for the next hour, knock on the door over and over  and then come into the house and ask them the same questions that they had been asked  during our friends visit, and the kids respond very politely, correctly and so adorable...for a moment I can't believe they are the same kids....They even take turns and we even do "stranger danger" of what to do if someone comes to the door and you don't know who they are.  For a day I am a hero, we have fun and the kids learned a "lesson." And I continue to hope that they are really "taking in" this long exhausting game of playing "knock knock". 

 Sunday, we got to practice our "game" of  role playing with our friends again and the kids did awesome. ....So for the rest of the summer we will continue to "role play" with some of our MANNERS and continue to hope and pray that my kids grow up as "polite individuals".  Every parents hope and dream to have your kid  be used by some other family as an "example" of how you should act in public right?

As I am trying to edit this,  I have to add that Tuesday I learned that this is going to be a LONG process after  I  took Mari by herself to a funeral with me ( I dropped off  the other two kids and my 4 year old niece with my sister  and her two kids, ages 3 and 2. She  is  also 7 months pregnant with her third. So leaving Mari with her was like entering dangerous waters, and out of fear, I took her with me).

 Mari sat awesome during the service and for the most part did really well except for right after we ate. I was sitting with my friend who's mother had passed away and her friend, and  Mari just comes running  up, and out of now where, burps in their faces..Sigh....that may need a whole other book title and new "creative game" to come up with...As usual, I am just exhausted typing this as living it out!  

Mari Minds Her Manners...
(a rough draft)

Hi my name is Marilyn Jane but you can call me Mari (Ma R ee)....

Today my mom said I need to mind my manners.

"What's manners?" I asked her.

She told me it is using  words like,  "Please and Thank you", "Talking quietly", "Being Nice and not Mean",  "Chewing with my mouth closed", "Saying May I ", "Being patient and not interrupting and if interrupting saying 'Excuse me'", "Sharing toys (even with babies she tells me!!)" ....things like that....

"Hmmm" I said.  "You mean using my manners at the library and how we need to talk in our  small voices?"

"Yes, just like that," She said....

"And like  when the lady at the bank gives me a sucker and I have to say,  'Thank You?'''

"Yes, just like that," She said

"Oh, Oh! Like when you are talking to someone and I need to interrupt and have to say, "Excuse me?"

"Yes,  Mari, just like that!" My mom smiles.

I can be good at this I  start to think.

"Mom? What do I do when I forget to use my manners?"  I ask with my mouth all smushed.

'''Good question Mari!" she tells me.

( I smile, I like asking good questions.)

Mom then tells me  what I have to do.

 "You stop  what you are doing and  use your  manners  by saying , 'Oh, excuse me! I forgot my manners!' and start using them ALL over again!''  she says as she winks at me...

I wink back and using my MANNERS, I say, "Why thank you mom for teaching me how to use my manners!"

Saturday, June 11, 2011

Mari survives DAY 1 of Summer Vacation...

So Friday  we went to Dylan's last day of school and they finished the day off with a parade.  Mari got swept into the parade with the students and in a second I lost her.  Thanks to 3 of my friends we found her.  I am going to end up with an ulcer because of her.  We then finished the day at the pool with my friend and her 4 kids.

Mari needs a NO FEAR t-shirt.  Maybe we will bring that part of the 80s/90s back and with her face on the back of it.  At the pool, she swam into the deep 5 ft part of the pool, following her sister.  I chased her down and brought her back.  I also had her 3 year old brother in my arms.  The moment we got back to the shallow part, she climb out of the pool and immediately jumped back into the deep end.  Just like that, JUMPED, like it was nothing.  My friend (emphasis...who also has 4 kids of her own) then chases after her and jumps in to grab her.  Ironically, Mari can actually swim on her own my friend found out, but at 4, I  am not going to let her swim in the deep end alone ( I am a responsible parent...or try to play the part).

My friend and I decided that day that Mari has the ability to move at the speed of light. She can teleport herself  like she is a  super hero or a Xman!

So, DAY ONE of summer, Mari was saved from an Amber Alert and from many more to go?

"Oh Mar"  is just a phrase we sigh....and she then looks at us and says, "What?" with her hands out and shoulders shrugged....I am smiling just typing this...that kid....

"Day 1 at the pool, resting after her JUMP"

Video of some Mad Mari  Faces....

Some different faces of Mari...

"I am determined"

Offical Face of Mad Mari

Monday, January 31, 2011

Mari Makes a Mess

(Very rough draft)

HI my names is Marilyn Jane Connors but you can call me Mari ( Ma R ee)

Today I made a BIG Mess.....

Toys every where....

I couldn't even see my floor!!!

Then I got sad because I couldn't find my favorite blankie  "MiMi".

She was gone.

I began to cry.

My mom came running in and asked what was wrong. I told her I couldn't find MiMi.

Mom then said, "Mari, this room is so MESSY, of course you can't find her.  Making a mess means cleaning up the mess."

Ugh...not what I wanted to hear....

I stood up....and started to clean up my mess....

Blocks in the basket...Dolls in the drawer....Clothes in the closet....and then I found her...


I found my MiMi!!!!  Mom was up my mess worked!!

Mess gone....MiMi found....

Some Mari Moments